Expectations: We all have them.
They come from school, work, family, friends, and even ourselves. Although they can be great motivators, sometimes they're too demanding. Especially when those expectations come from people. I've noticed recently that a lot of people have high expectations for me. It's a good and a bad thing. It's good because it gives me a reason to try. To me it's like a goal that needs to be reached, and let me tell you, I've got determination. At the same time, it has a bad side because you can't keep everyone happy. Someone expects you to do something and you can't do it. Disappointment. Expectations and I have a love/hate relationship.
...but sometimes they don't return the favor...
If you have high expectations for me, I have high expectations for you. Simple as that! Unfortunately, my expectations have gotten lower while the expectations for me continue to climb up the expectation ladder. This is something that really bothers me. I'm always helping people out, whether it be from school work to life problems. Yet the second I need help, everyone closes up. What's up with that? I rarely ask for advice or help, so when I do ask, it shouldn't be such a problem. Yet every time I need a little help, people mysteriously seem to disappear. And it's not limited to life problems. It's everything! Even the little things, such as helping me finish my math homework after I spent half the time teaching you how to do it or simply giving a little input after I gave you tons of helpful advice. It's just something that really gets under my skin. Something that I've been practicing is putting myself first. In all honesty, I hate selfishness, but there comes a time when everyone around you is selfish so you need to be too. I'm done with these high expectations and all of the people that throw them at me. My happiness is my number one priority and that's the way it should be.
I could honestly go on for days about this subject, but I don't like to complain too much. Just every once in a while through a blog:)
But basically what I want to know is:
Love,
Alexis, the one who has a hard time being even a little selfish.
Hmmm... this is an interesting blog. How should I answer or should I even reply/comment? I should and I will... Ready?
ReplyDeleteFirst, you need to know that you come from two of the most unselfish people you will ever meet, your dad n me. We have always put everyone else's needs first and see where it got us. From watching other people's kids, pouring ourselves to our kids to always being there for family (emotionally and financially). You name it and we have done it. For what? Our marriage dissolved because we didn't take care of each other. We never learned how to be selfish and to make selfish time for ourselves and each other. Now, daddy is trying to learn to be selfish and you see me working through learning to be selfish. We have never asked anyone for help but we always need others. You are young and you are seeing that people usually think of themselves but I don't want you to focus on this. I think your daddy and me have taught you that you give without expecting anything in return. At the same time, if you don't speak up, no one will know that you need help. I AM ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU even if I have to be pulled away from the "Ville's" but regardless, I am here for you. Remember....we expect alot of ourselves and sometimes we just have to tell ourselves that we did the best we could, then be at peace with it. Trust me, I know
I went to a garden party reminisced with my old frinds.
ReplyDeleteA chance to share old memories and play our songs again.
When I got to the garden party they all knew my name.
But no one recognized me I din't look the same.
But it's alright now
I learned my lesson well
You see you can't please anyone so
You got to please yourself.,
Last night during our weekly Bible study with my sister Elena we learned that even the apostoles while being with Jesus closed their eyes to certain things and they only saw what they wanted to see. Ummm I am sure Jesus had high expectations for them but yet he understood that to them there were limitations. Since I'm quoting something I learned from the Bible let me also quote the verse "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
Set your expectations and follow them as you normally would and if you don't meet them do not lose any sleep over it because you will have a tomorrow to try again. Don't set yourself to dissapointment by expecting something in return for if it comes you will cherish it that much more.
If others have high expectatios for you that's fine too it's their choice, just don't get confused and try to meet those expectations as they are not yours.
Now, I expect from you to... just kiddin'!
Love ya!